• Life With The Littleton's

FAMILY CHORES

Updated: Jan 26, 2019

Brace Yourself...it's not what you may think.




Let's get to the grit and "dirt" of this topic.

“Seriously, ya'll...I'm so tired of stepping over your stuff...Oh my gosh. . . you guys!”~ Me {The Mom} Spoken every day. . . all day long.

Someone will read this part and throw out suggestions or think 'well there's plenty of hands to make the work lighter, they should all help." Yeah yeah...I'm not even disagreeing with you but it's just not as easy.


Why Chores are a struggle. Try to follow along.


First of all, we have 9 kids. Three teens age 17, 15 and 15 and Six kids under the age of 9 years old.


We group them like this. The "oldest: Teens.


The three "middle children": ages 9, 8 & 7.


The three "youngest" children: ages 6, 6 and 5.


Two of the teens will jump in and help (sometimes) very willingly without even needing to be asked. One will avoid helping at all costs because death-by-chores may be a potential health risk. (Laugh and roll your eyes but, it's not an exaggeration).


The "middle children" will help but need a lot of direction and coaching to stay on task. Adding the youngest ones to this mix of chore doing and it ends up creating some sort of Lord of the Flies leadership struggle.


Who's the Ring Leader of this circus anyway?


We've tried all of the following and there were challenges with every single scenario.


Household Flow Charts. Daily Chore charts. Incentive Chore Charts. Rotating Chores. Buddy-system Chores (where each person has a buddy for each task). Drawing names. Chores by request. Chores by asking politely. Family meetings explaining the importance of helping. Taking away phones/ipads/devices until chores are done. Not asking them to help thinking maybe they would think to pitch in on their own. . .


{blah blah blah}


Still Trying To Figure It Out.


Each of our children have different personalities so that has to be taken into consideration. We have one child who has such a huge servants heart; who feels the value of helping out and does so joyfully all the time; almost too much and too often.


Two of our teens has learned it's just the responsible expectation of what's expected living in a large family and the quicker you help the quicker you get to do other things that they'd rather be doing.


The three youngest kiddos get side tracked very easily so we don't give them many chores (mostly they will just need reminded the whole time or need supervision and we aren't helicopter parents.


Trauma & special needs that comes along with adoption. There are times that the factors of trauma and broken pasts that link to the smallest things such as household chores.


Motherhood come sometimes just be consumed with walking around all day long picking up toys, smelling clothes on the floor to determine if they are actually clean or dirty, finding sweaty socks in the hallway, picking up trash that misses the can, plunge clogged toilet several times a week because {said kids} can't reference how much toilet paper to use when going to the bathroom, help wipe booties, assist blowing noses and it snot seeps through the Kleenex and referee some of the most ridiculous arguments


Transparent Moment: The most ridiculous arguments we had to referee for nearly a summer season long was, "Mom, he/she thumbs-downed-me"! Our three little ones would do this to each other and it would literally end up in full blown meltdowns. Yes it was funny but also very annoying how a simple thumbs down could make them all spiral so much.


Yes! I will absolutely miss the drudge of daily tasks once they grow. I would love for them to stay little forever. I do not take for granted that this is our life phase right now. It's a balance of perspective in the midst of the daily grind. But ya'll that grind an be exhausting some days.


Having been in all stages of motherhood. SAHM to Full-time working Mom, there are challenges with each but, that's a topic for another day.


Oh, Back to the topic of chores... {multi-tasking}!


What Worked Best Overall?


So, we may be a little competitive. Most of our kids do not like to loose. Sometimes, bringing in a little competitive nature actually creates a driving force of motivation.


During summer break the method that worked best was the Point Incentive Chore Chart. Each task earned a certain amount of points and points were added up daily. If a chore wasn't done, they just didn't earn a point and another child had an opportunity to "take" that point. At the end of each week they could turn in their "points" for a privilege. If they chose not to turn in their points, they could "roll over" their points to the following week and earn a larger incentive.


Incentives could be anything from an ice cream sundae to a trip to the movie theatre, dinner out articles of clothing or toys. (budget given).


Of course, it would be stellar if our house was consistently clean and orderly! This OCD-A-type personality Mama would be thrilled but, we have 9 kids and crazy schedules and that's just not the reality of our stage of life we are in. Do our kids need to help out more, YES absolutely!


I prefer organized chaos...but more of the organized.



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